What is going on parents?? Especially my moms out there???? I am seeing way too much negativity and even more downing yourself as not only a person but a mother. Who in the world is making you feel this way?? If it's society, you need to knock that crap off by not listening. Society has absolutely no business making your decisions for you, about you, or around you. Society is full of labels, misrepresentations and sadly, lies on what it is to be a person let alone being a mother.
Your ex? Unless you are "mother of the year", your ex will do and say whatever to make you feel bad. That seems to be the text book case with so many. Fortunately for me, I will never have that. Sadly, my bug's father could really care less about her. I say, thank you!!! Thank you for giving me the ability to have the right people in her life and the right influences. It saddens me to see so many of my friends having to go through so much just to try and keep a balance in life with work, household and kids. Hell, I have one and I'm about to curl up in the fetal position and rock myself!!! I can't imagine what having two or more is like and then on top of that you have to try and keep yourself sane. Listen my dears, NEVER let anyone take your sparkle!!! Ladies we need to keep our heads up and keep moving forward!
With that being said I am now going to anger some of you. I don't care. My opinion, my blog, my observations. You don't like it, then don't read. Plain and simple....
I am seeing too many of my friends and too many random posts on various sites where the mother is seriously questioning her ability of being a good parent. This truly angers me to no end because most of you that are questioning your parenting skills are absolutely fantastic and honestly who I am going to for help. If I felt that you are a crappy mom, do you think I would ask you for help with my kid??? Hells to the nah!!!
Another thing that just peeves me to no end, choosing one sibling over another. You CANNOT do this!!! By you choosing one of your children over another, you are creating such a disgusting existence between the two. Your children will grow up with so much animosity not only towards each other, but they will definitely have a lot towards you. Remember folks, your children are in charge of your care once you become elderly. Revenge is a bitch!!!
Lastly and most importantly, the mother of all pet peeves for me.....and this involves both parents....using your child as a PAWN!!!!! This is not Harry Potter where you play Wizards Chess, this is life and you DO NOT TOY WITH ANOTHER PERSON'S LIFE!!!!!!!!! What is wrong with you???? Are you that sick and demented that you feel that you need to use your child to get back at the other person? You are messing with a life. Plain and simple. Oh and hey, guess what??? It's not YOUR LIFE!!!!!!! Once you have a child, yes you get to rear them and guide them, however, it is essentially their life. I'm sure a lot of you don't agree with me on this but it is true. I'm going to have a hard time letting my little one have her own life just as my mother had to let me. One thing about this method, I did learn to be independent and I appreciated my mother more for what she did. She never left my side, she just encouraged me to make my decisions so that I could truly learn the value life and how anything I say, think or do does effect all around me. What happened to this practice parents? Are you so hellbent on anger and hate that you use and abuse that which looks to you for guidance?
My heart truly goes out to those who are in this constant tug-of-war with either an ex or society or even worse, yourself. Try to take a moment. Step back, look at the situation. Are you truly that bad? No. Do you need to be so hateful? No. Do you need to wreck everyone's life around you? No. Just stop and think past your own nose and agenda.
